If you look up the word "honor"in the dictionary, you will find that it is a word that originated in England in the 1200's. It was tied to the special treatment that was given to famously successful kings and knights. While other cultures had different words for this, the concept and expressions go back to Biblical times. The women danced and sang songs about King David's exploits. The women danced and sang songs about the glorious deliverance of God as He led them safely through the Red Sea. So, our word today means to show merited respect or one whose worth brings respect. What a great attitude to bring into marriage.
Life has a way of piling up hurts, hardship, and disappointments and blurring out all of the positives...if we let it. Honor in a marriage is built on perspective, thanksgiving, appreciation, and decision.
Do you remember how much you longed for a mate when you were single? This was the longing of your heart and the subject of most of your dreams. Most of us hinged all of our plans and dreams for life around the changes that a mate might bring to us. Then, your dreams came to pass...you found the love of your life, got married, and began to build a life together. Considering all of this, it is clear that your mate is one who has great worth to you. They are the answer to your prayers and dreams. They rescued you from lonely nights of dreaming of a companion.
The question is, do you still appreciate that or have you become so disconnected from that "single" stage of your life that you take your mate for granted and regard your mate with little worth? The way we treat our mate is directly connected to the value we ascribe to him/her. That value is under constant assault by the struggles of life, their shortcomings, and the bad influences of our society.
If we choose to honor our mate, we will choose to do things that will please our mate. We will be careful how we speak to our mate. We will allow our appreciation of their involvement in our lives to flow over into a myriad of loving words and actions. We will be focused on our mate's worth and value to us. Except in cases of violent abuse or adultery, your mate is the same person that you were crazy over when you got married. Make a point to shake off the dust and recapture your appreciation for all your mate is in your life. Show your mate how much you value him/her for the wonderful things they have brought into your life!
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