Writing a Love Letter

This week, I want to challenge you to continue to refresh the romance in your marriage by writing love letters or cards. With Valentine's Day approaching, it is a great time to start!
Have you ever noticed how hard it is to find a card off the shelf that truly expresses what you feel for your mate?
A few years ago, I gave up. After hours of looking at cards, I decided to try my hand at making my own, after all, how hard could it be? Turns out, it was pretty hard at first. I am a fairly creative guy, but it took some effort to get going. I want to share some pointers with you.
 

• First of all, read the Song of Solomon(Songs) in your Bible. It is a fantastic illustration of a great love letter. Don't get caught up in the plot or the symbolism (that could be for later) simply notice the content and style of the love expressions between the lovers.
• Imitate the style, but not the words. Make it your own. For example, I don't recommend comparing your wife's hair to goat hair or her teeth to freshly shorn sheep, but I think you get the overall idea.
   
• Make a list of topics to be highlighted. In SOS the male lover highlights her perfume, her beauty, her kisses, her physical qualities, her voice, and his consuming desire  for her. The female lover talks about his good looks, his provision and protection, his strength, his ability, the joy of his public display of love for her, and how her desire for him consumes her.
• Plan on breaking your thoughts into several short letters/cards. Try to keep each letter/card specific on one or two topics.
• I normally try to tie them together with some sort of theme, but this is not necessary. One year, I used an adventure theme about our journey through life and thanked my wife for being the greatest companion. You get the point, but you don't have to go elaborate.
• You can do this as hand written letters or use your computer to create letters or cards. You can incorporate pictures or artwork...get creative.
• The main thing is that you invest some time writing out specifically a few things that you love and appreciate about your mate! Share your Heart!
   
• Do NOT incorporate ANYTHING that is derogatory or demeaning about your mate, this is a place for carefully used words of love and appreciation, not a place for hurtful teasing or sarcasm.

Plan on getting started right away!

This exercise will pay off in Big rewards in your marriage!

          Refresh the Romance this year! 

                             

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