Wouldn't it be incredible if your wife was overwhelmed with love for you? Can you imagine if her love for you was so overwhelming that it made her woosy? Well, before you delete this in disbelief, at least hear me out. I'm not referring to a constant state of woosiness, but rather an overarching satisfaction and a steady warm, wonderful feeling toward you.
In Song of Songs, we have a contrast of the woman's experience with significant men in her life. First, in SOS1:6, her brothers related to her in anger and neglect. This left her feeling hurt, insecure, unloved and devalued.
Then, in SOS 2:3,4, she describes her experience with her soon to be husband. She says that he is like an apple tree. She loves to sit in his shade. Her brothers forced her out into the harshness of the hot,sweltering sun with no relief, but he provides shade for her and apples to nourish her. Not only that, but he has taken her to the banquet hall for a great feast to celebrate her presence in his life and has publicly declared his love for her. She has gone from mistreatment and lack of love to being cared for and heralded as the love of his life. All this has made her faint...woosy...with love for him!
I don't know about you, but that's how I want to be in the life of my wife. The question is,"How do we get there?"
First of all, we have all made terrible mistakes, so a good place to start is to identify those and determine to stop making those mistakes. Maybe some apologies would be in order if these mistakes have been left as gaping wounds in the relationship.
Next, ask her to tell you what makes her feel especially loved by you. Ask and listen, you might be surprised. Whatever she says...believe it...even if you don't understand it. Start doing those things.
Next, be thoughtful of her and show your love for her when you are out in public (as well as in private). For example, hold her hand often, walk by her side not far up ahead, smile at her, minimize cell phone conversations when you are with her and pay attention to her.
Every day give her hugs and kisses, tell her how much you love her, tell her how pretty she is, and look her in the eye and tell her that you will never leave her.
These are some great ideas to start with. I'm sure you will think of many ways to build on this in your quest to make your wife "love to sit in your shade". Who knows, maybe she will have a few woosy moments too!
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