"Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth - for your love is more delightful than wine." Song of Songs 1:2
Yes, this is a quote from the Bible. The Song of Songs is a book of the Bible that is devoted to celebrating the wonder of romance and love between a married man and woman. It has been a guide as well as a source of inspiration to married couples for centuries.
In Genesis 2, we read the account of God's creation of Adam and Eve. God created Adam and Eve as the crowning glory of all His creation. Man and woman were unique from all other created beings in many ways including our ability to communicate clearly and precisely with each other, our ability to communicate with God, our ability to create, reason, and build, and the way we enjoy our senses. While many of God's creations have the sense of taste, smell, touch, sight, and hearing, man is unique in our experience of these things. We not only taste, but we create gourmet experiences for our enjoyment. We not only smell, but we create a wide variety of smell sensations to enjoy. We not only touch, but we have developed schools to help further the healing benefits of touch. Not only do we see, we create beautiful art. Not only do we hear, but we create beautiful music of all sorts to fill the ears with the beauty of music. Man is unique among all of God's creation.
This is true also in our romantic relationships. As far as anyone can tell, animals engage in a form of courtship and mating simply because of an instinctual drive to create offspring. Courtship among humans is different. We are different by design just as we are different in our enjoyment our our five senses. The bond between a married couple is a deep bond that is intended to bring a lifetime of comfort and enjoyment as they help each other through the ups and downs of life. However, just like it takes effort, planning, and creativity to create a wonderful perfume, a delicious meal, a masterpiece, or beautiful music, it takes effort, planning, and creativity to keep the enjoyment part of the relationship alive and well. One of the keys to keeping the excitement alive in a marriage is to make kissing a regular part of your interaction.
In a recent study, it was revealed that 1/5 of married couples regularly go as long as one week without kissing at all. Then, when they did kiss, 40% of them shared a kiss that lasted only five seconds. It is no wonder that so many people are bored and miserable in their marriages.
According to www.webmd.com, there are quite a few benefits associated with kissing including:
- Kissing relieves stress and aids in relaxation because the kissing event focuses their attention off of stressors and fully onto their partner and the sensations of the moment.
- Kissing communicates acceptance and desire which creates a sense of security and peace.
- Kissing is a natural part of the bonding process and when married couples spend time kissing it deepens their connection and bond with each other which is very comforting.
- Kissing enhances the closeness in a marriage. Kissing is requires being close...close enough to feel each other's body warmth, to feel each other's breath, and to smell and taste each other. A lack of physical closeness breeds insecurity. Kissing is the cure.
- Kissing is the doorway to a sexual encounter. Kissing greatly increases the pleasure exchanged during a sexual encounter. This all works together to bring a greater sense of pleasure, happiness, and security to couples.
All of this is as much a mystery as our heightened enjoyment of our five senses and the lengths we will go to to fully experience them. Whether you understand this or not, it will benefit you to make a pledge to yourself and your mate to refuse to become a "non-kissing" couple. There is no benefit to allowing the fire of romance in your marriage to die. If you are somewhat adventurous, regard it as a wonderful experiment to improve your marriage.
By the way, July 6th is National Kissing Day. I urge you to mark it on your calendar and plan to celebrate in grand style. But, of course, you will need to practice a lot to get in shape for it!
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