The words that we speak have the power to build up those around us or to tear them down. So, it is critical for us to be careful to pay attention to what we say. We need to ask God to help us guard what we say.
A great place to start is by focusing on Ephesians 4:29, "Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.
What a great idea for marriage! Somehow, when we get married, we give ourselves permission to ventilate the frustrations and disappointments we feel directly at our mate. Too many marriages are hurting or falling apart because of hurtful words being thrown around carelessly. If you have given yourself permission to speak to your mate in a way that tears them down, hurry, revoke it and reverse it today before more damage is done!
We are all guilty to some degree. Today is a great day to realize that our words really matter. Since they really matter, we should choose them carefully. Make it your goal to stop hurling hurtful words at your mate. Then, start building deeper love by choosing to lavish your mate with beneficial, helpful words that build up and encourage your mate. This is a great habit to develop!
At Faith, we have been studying the 40 Days of Love by Rick Warren and in it I found a helpful tip that I want to share with you. Before speaking consider the following:
T- is it the truth?
H- is it helpful?
I- is it inspirational? Does it build up?
N- is it necessary?
K- is it kind?
If we grow in our practice of these criteria as we speak to our mate and children we would see our marriages and families burst with the new growth of love!
Build up...don't tear down!
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